Be Kind to Yourself

Elana Meta: Lessons I Learned from My Father

I’ve been so blessed to have been surrounded by incredibly optimistic people my entire life, so picking one is hard. However, if there’s one human being that truly recognizes the glass is half full – always, it’s my father.

Let’s face it: a lot of who we become is a deep reflection of our parents. This can be a great thing, a troublesome thing, maybe a little bit of both. As I get older, I see more and more how fortunate I am to have a strong relationship with my dad. Time and time again, he  has shown me the best qualities I’ve seen in a  man. My dad always smiled at me after a soccer games with joy whether we lost or not. “…but did you see the way you dribbled the ball up and down the field? I was so impressed!”

I understand more now why those moments were so important to my growth. Just like he’d make me try 3 bites of food I didn’t like to show me that there may be things in the world I don’t like, and I still have to take them on! It’s better to try something and know you don’t like it than it is to simply walk away.

0626FB76-3684-40FA-BE6B-B16B7BD1D89DIt’s been proven that kids are likely to continue to grow the good when they are acknowledged with praise, and my dad always made it a point to let me know that he was paying attention when I had done something good, and that he was proud of me, and to show me that it mattered to him. Now, it matters to me.

This isn’t just a lesson, this is a way of life. It’s critical to give positive reinforcement even when it’s hard to find the “good” in a situations. When I focus on the good, I get the good. What we focus on creates our reality. My dad focuses on love, so what I’ve experienced is a man filled with love and appreciation for his family.

If I could share with you now the biggest thing I learned from my dad, it’s this: to be kind to yourself and the ones around you. To do everything with love. Whenever I’m in a struggle (the struggle is real!), I bring my mind to the optimistic perspective. “It could be worse, this isn’t so bad, I’m so lucky to be alive! I am grateful that I have food on my plate and people around who love me!”

There’s so much good to be thankful for. It takes a reminder every once in a while to smile at the good. I get that reminder from my dad, and for that I am always grateful.

Thank you Dad for being my hero of optimism. Your love and goodness has rubbed off on me.  🙂

– Elana Meta

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Elana Meta is a powerhouse of love and light. Founder of the Meta Method, a movement of movement that connects the dance of life with the four natural elements, Elana ignites people’s passions by uniting them to their passion. The Meta Method allows people of all walks of life to stay present in their connection to themselves, eachother, and the world around us. Elana holds a BA in Dance & was trained at The Hip-Hop Dance Conservatory. Fusing together urban moves with earthly views, she helps women and men alike strip away what’s known to delve into the world of passion and action. Her performances have taken her from Lincoln Center & Red Rocks Amphitheater all the way to Burning Man, inspiring people to put their human spirit in motion. She has danced alongside artists such as Beyonce, Michael Franti, Nahko, Medicine for the People, Thievery Corporation and Hoodie Allen. As a teacher, Elana leads classes at Wanderlust, Lightning in a Bottle and private venues across the country and now the world! Wherever you find her, Meta is on a mission to give people back their human right to freedom through dance and finding joy within movement.

Learn more about Elana here.